Yes, it's a very long title, but after you read this book, you'll see that it fits. And if you've ever been a friend or had a friend who's shared and cared through a lifetime, then you'll enjoy Husbands May Come and Go, But Friends Are Forever. Yes, even if you've never had a husband. I can easily see why Husbands May Come and Go, But Friends Are Forever, hereafter shortened to Husbands, by Judith Marshall, has been optioned for the big screen. It's one of those stories that will make you laugh out loud and cry silently, with many heaving sighs sprinkled throughout. Marshall has written a book that makes me glad that I love to read. Part of the reason it took me a while to write this review is because I was casting the characters in my mind. It was a quick read, but I really wanted to take time to think about my characters. Husbands is a story of a group of friends who have known and supported each other through decades of life, struggles, tragedies and triumphs, five of whom have to come together once more in the wake of the unexpected and mysterious death of the sixth. Although Marshall's characters, Liz, Karen, Arlene, Gidge, Rosie, and Jo, are a generation of women who came of age in the 1950s and early 60s, they are like any group of girlfriends, from any place, from any time. Having met as teenagers, they soon become something like "The Six Musketeers," making pacts and vows to never keep secrets and tell each other everything. Told from the point of view of Liz, the level-headed, Husbands is a series of thoughts, memories, and conversations, weaved together by a tragic event and the aftermath of the surviving friends trying to cope, understand, and heal, as well as uncover a couple of secrets untold. Liz is the level-headed one, almost too level-headed for her own good. She was a struggle for me at times. She's only had one husband, Ricky, (a Tony Curtis or Robert Wagner type) who left her when the kids were still young. We learn through a series of flashbacks, that Liz had trouble liking herself growing up, and I wondered if that trouble might have had something to do with her "trouble" with choosing a life with her smart, witty, good-looking, generous, kind, successful, emotionally stable, faithful boyfriend, Sam, (Gregory Peck, in my mind) after she'd lost her job to a company merger. She got on my nerves, a little bit. Who would really be torn over the kinds of decisions Liz tortured herself with? Oh yeah. The same one who wouldn't be satisfied to be a Maureen O'Hara in a sea of Esther Williamses. Geez Louise. I'd make Grace Kelly, Janet Leigh, or Joanne Woodward my Liz. Or, if Maureen O'Hara, I'd change Sam to Brian Keith. Arlene is the friend that everybody either has, or is. The one who is a shameless flirt, maybe even something of a floozy, who thinks she's more attractive than she really is, but makes up for her genetic shortcomings with self-esteem. If you don't have a friend like Arlene, you are Arlene. She's also once divorced. I would choose the girl who played Erin in "The Waltons," or the lady who played Flo on "Alice" to be Arlene. Jo is the mostly mousy, but has some spunk (if you coax it out of her) friend. She's found her footing after leaving her high school sweetheart-turned-abusive husband, later becoming highly successful in real-estate. I would cast Sally Field for Jo. Rosie, the only one who has never been divorced, and so can afford to be "so pious" (Liz' words) is the goody-goody of the group. She's also an apparent health nut, who likes to run. I dig Rosie for being a middle-aged mama who's still got all of her act together. She's the cryer, the emotional center, or emotional wreck of the group, depending on the time of day. For Rosie, I'd go with Jane Powell. Think Millie, in "Seven Brides for Seven Brothers." And then there's Gidge. Fabulous Gidge. Married four times, and proud of every bit of it. She's the crap-talking, while taking no crap, wise-cracking, calling it like she sees it, fun one. I call her the hub of the circle. It was Gidge who brought the others together. My Gidge would be Lucille Ball, red hair and all. Or Rosalind Russell in her Mame-like character. And finally, there's Karen, the fallen angel. To say that Liz worshiped Karen would be about accurate, which is why I had trouble with the fact that Liz "was never able" to tell Karen how much she loved her. That bothered the crap out of me. You've been friends for 40+ years. Surely, the opportunity to tell each other, "I love you," must have presented itself a few times. Karen, who had been married three times, has layers and layers that are peeled back slowly by Liz and the others, who spend days contemplating what led to or contributed to her untimely accident. We see the sweet side, the vulnerable side, the bold, mischievous, fun-loving side, the warm and nurturing side. But was it an accident? And if it wasn't an accident, who was the culprit? I was glad this book didn't lend itself too much to the whodunnit, or did-they-do it angel. She would have been played by a young-to-middle aged Farrah Fawcett, or Marylin Monroe. Well, to say the ending is happy would be an untruth; but there is happiness and healing, which is why I gave this book a full five stars, instead of the four that Liz kept asking for. After over 3/4 of the way through the book, the mystery of Karen's death unravels into a neat pile of heart strings (not sure how much I really liked that explanation, seemed somewhat out of place); while Liz's life finally weaves itself together into a comfortable place, the minor snags working themselves out. At the end of Husbands, I found myself pleased. Obviously, I recommend this book to others. And I'd be interested to see who other readers cast in certain parts. Add Comment I Meant to Write But Didn't 05/05/2012
There's that time thing, again. I meant to write a post in April. Several times, I meant to write, but time got away from me. I wish I could remember what it was that I wanted to share, but since I can't, I'll share this: Life is a freakin' time suck. I know that's not news, but it's where I find myself at this moment. Wishing I could go somewhere and just not be bothered by anyone or anything that isn't directly related to my writing, publishing, or creative processes. I find myself peeved at people and situations that have distracted me from my intentions. The recurring theme in my head is, "Leave me the fuck alone." But you can't say that when you have a full-time job, or people who depend on you to do it. *Sigh* I've GOT to work on my time management skills. Don't Start None. Won't Be None 03/18/2012
People are always crying out for change and justice; but change is like anything else: Don't start none. Won't be none. And all the obligatory outrage, indignation, rabble rousing, yip-yapping, and lip-flapping in cyber space and outer space won't get you past the instigating stage, neither on an individual, local, nor global scale. Put your movement where your mouth is. How about that? Opportunity and the Big Dance 03/04/2012
I haven't always gotten the things in life that I said I wanted when I wanted them, but I've learned that sometimes, when we get things for which aren't prepared, we don't know how to accept, appreciate or enjoy them. Something tells me that now would be a good time for me to be diligent about my preparation. I don't want to be caught sitting here in fuzzy pink pajamas, chipped nail polish, hair plaits, and a face covered in Noxema when opportunity comes to sweep me off my feet for the big dance. And once we get there, I want to do more than just tap my feet. What about you? Eyes on the Prize 03/03/2012
It's a sad reality that sometimes, the people from whom you expect to get the most support and encouragement will be the ones who will be the wet blankets at your picnic. If not that, then choose the cliche most to your liking. Wet blanket at your picnic, rain on your parade, or just plain naysayers to everything and anything at which you put forth some effort. Maybe they don't even realize they're bringing you down, and maybe they do. And unfortunately, that includes family, friends, agents, publishers, and yes, even fellow writers. It's tough to think that not everyone is happy for you, even though they like to caveat their bad vibes with, "No offense," and "I'm just saying," and other crap. Sometimes, it's hard to tell if comments are useful constructive criticism and advice, or genuine apathy and spite; but if you're going to write or take on any other business venture or pursuit of dreams, you have to accept it all and still keep it moving. Sure, some of your ideas and plans will be less than perfect, some of your work not great, some of it just plain bad; but with all of that in mind, just keep your head up and your eyes open. Only time will tell if you'll ever reach the prize that you're pursuing, but if you stop reaching, then you can be sure that you never will. Never stop reaching. It's true that everything won't work for everyone. I've been told that a large part of being successful in any business is just being prepared for luck and chance to favor you. Be in the right place at the right time, and don't be afraid to try something different while you're working at your "lucky coincidence" or whatever it's called. Most of all, don't let anyone tell you that it'll never work, or it shouldn't work, or even if it does work, it's really has no real value. All of that is a back-handed, back-biting, often passive-aggressive, not-so-slick way of someone trying to convince you that their opinions of your efforts and ideas are worth more than your own. Phooey! That said, I wanted to post a couple of blogs that I read today that might be encouraging. Here's one from Martin Crosbie, who shares a story about being among those who made the top of the Amazon bestsellers list, despite many, many rejections before he decided to self-publish. Here's one from Emlyn Chand, of Novel Publicity & Co., about leaving your readers wanting more. Another, from Tawdra Kandle, about considering the indie-published route, and how "indie" is NOT a bad word. And one more, from Michael Fogus, on reading, especially for those of us who are short on time these days. Yes, another plug for the benefits of being a reader. :) One of my favorite Michael Jackson songs is called "Keep the Faith," where he sings about keeping your eye on the prize and your feet on the ground. I don't think that was meant specifically for writers, but it's still great advice. Happy reading, writing living, and reaching! Full details of the Up from Here Project can be found here. ALL COVER DESIGN CANDIDATES: This is a job opportunity, not a pick-and-choose contest where "best design" gets an X-number of dollar prize. Please contact me to post your rate proposals, contact information, and a link to where your sample work can be viewed. I am answering all inquiries via email! Please CHECK YOUR SPAM folders for emails from my @newerenaissanceink.com addresses. My deadline for COMPLETION of this cover design project is 30 April 2012, as we expect to publish the book on 16 September 2012. Send initial designs to info@newrenaissanceink by 10 March 2012. Once I receive your first designs, I'll provide my phone number to designers who prefer to consult with me voice-to-voice. Deciding Factors: 1. The way the initially submitted design appeals to me. I created the concept photo album on Facebook to give designers a starting point. 2. The designer's availability to work on the design to produce a finished product by 30 April (or beyond, if press schedule allows). 3. The designer's rates or fee for the work. MORE ABOUT THE PROJECT: One hundred percent (100%) of the proceeds from the sale of this book will go to charity. For concept ideas, I posted a photo album on my New Renaissance Ink, LLC Facebook page to give an idea of the concept. See the album here, and feel free to post your own questions and comments. COMPENSATION (for Cover Designers ONLY): Once we agree upon a rate/fee with the selected designer, we prefer to make compensation via Paypal, but we also have access to electronic funds transfer to any savings or checking account, as well as to some prepaid cards. The selected designer will also receive a copy of Up from Here upon publication. Compensation will be half up front and half upon delivery of completed work. ADDITIONAL INCENTIVE: As a gesture of thanks to the first five (5) design candidates who submit a design, we plan to offer an extra monetary compensation, whether or not your design is selected for this project. If you are among those first 5 candidates, congratulations, and thanks! REMEMBER: Being among the first 5 candidates to submit a design does not imply that you will be hired for this project. SPECIAL NOTE: If you are still interested in submitting content for consideration for the book, please see the Special Projects tab at New Renaissance Ink, LLC. I'm pretty sure that you can tell a lot about a person's TRUE character by the way they drive a shopping cart or navigate themselves around a grocery store. I'm the LEAST patient person I know, and I still know how to be courteous, wait my turn, and say, "Excuse me," when I'm in a crowded aisle or frozen food section. Sometimes, I just wanna slap folks for being jerks. On one hand, I should have known better than to go shopping on Super Bowl/Payday Weekend, but on the other hand, people should just have better manners. You ain't the only one in a rush. I'm convinced that these military spouses are just crazy. They act like they're the only ones who want to shop in the commissary; and then bring nana and pawpaw in with the kids to add to the confusion, while they mean mug you for picking up that last pack of cheap chicken wings, or getting to the check out line faster than they did. Honey, my nerves. Just madness. I'm a pretty fast shopper. I don't just stand in folks way because I got there first, and just stand there for the heck of it. I think some of them heffas do it on purpose. Yes, I over-thought it, but I think it gives them a sense of power to inconvenience the hell out of somebody else. I don't even think they're really reading the labels. Just in the damn way. As for the kids, move your little no-money-having, not-buying-a-damn-thing butt out of the way. I now understand why our parents left us in the car when it wasn't everybody else's business that they did so. Red Tails Made Me Want More 01/21/2012
I thoroughly enjoyed Red Tails, a film about the incomparable Tuskegee Airmen, last night. It's an action film to rival any of its contemporaries, without being glitzy and over the top, which I know is usually the order of the day by many of today's audiences. Of course, I love my share of the Independence Day, G.I. Joe, Transformers type of in-your-face fare, but that kind of zoom and boom would not have done this work its due justice. I think the way they did it was done just right. I'll admit that seeing the actors Cuba Gooding Jr., Terrence Howard, and even Method Man (aka Cliff Smith), all closer to my age in real life, portraying the seasoned vets of the day among so many of the younger, lesser known cast made me feel old. Nate Parker, whom I loved in The Great Debaters, delivered a superbly flawed and vulnerable squadron leader, CPT "Easy" Julian, with the finesse and demeanor of a young Denzel Washington's PFC Melvin Peterson, ala A Soldier's Story. If I had a school girl's crush on Denzel, then I seem to have developed a cougar's crush on Nate. But, oh well. Well, this is no soldier's story. It is an airman's story. Or rather, the story of several airmen. It was a well-directed and well-acted. The lead and supporting performances were all subtle, but strong. You will likely see several faces that you know you know from somewhere, even if you can't immediately place the names. The script was powerful, but understated, in my opinion. Despite my emotional attachment to the story, I wish the script writing had been stronger. I think the dialogue fell flat in some places because the movie was so short and seemed cheated. Hopefully, the actors' delivery won't get the blame for that. It felt like a very abbreviated film for it to have been 2 hours long; but maybe that's because I was enjoying it so much. I wanted to know more about and see more from all of the characters. I'd love to one day see the deleted scenes that landed on the cutting room floor. I've heard that there may be a prequel and/or a sequel coming out. That would be great. Of course, like any movie "based on true events," I probably would label it historical fiction. Yes, based on true events, but obviously laced with many Hollywood touches. It is not without its flaws and historical inaccuracies, but that's no reason not to enjoy it. It's a respectfully done and respectable effort. It would be nice to see it do well critically, if not financially. And it's great for starting and continuing a dialogue about these men and their stories. I remember that A Soldier's Story, in its time, wasn't all that well received, but today, it's a classic to many, even with its flaws. Basically, watching Red Tails made me want to see more. I guess that's a good thing in Hollywood. Maybe that's the way they set it up for the sequels and prequels, to make you want more. I hope that's the case; and hopefully, the story will be fleshed out more in future movies. Always leave 'em wanting more. I do hope there is more, and very soon! From what I've heard, it took over 20 years for this film to finally be made. Twenty more years would be way too long. Thanks, Mr. Lucas and Mr. Hemingway. Well done. MLK Jr. ~ More Than Words 01/15/2012
For those of you who missed it, today is the birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., a Georgia native (my homeboy), an Alpha Phi Alpha man (swagger personified), and arguably the most prominent figure in the American Civil Rights Movement. He died before I was born. I'm older now than he was then. History has taught me that while he lived, he was older than my grandfather, younger than my grandmother, and that he was more than the "I Have a Dream" speech, a superb piece of writing, by the way, and more than the March on Washington. And frankly, I find the descriptions "dream" and "dreamer" terribly cliche and overused in reference to who he was. People, especially writers, should find more words to use than those. Trite much? He was one of many who fought and died for equal rights, opportunities, treatment, and trying to offer the world a perspective of what could be with a little momentum and dedication. Whatever else he was or wasn't, did or didn't do, it's because of him and many like him that I know many of you and can call you my family and friends, and can make the most of the opportunities that I have. That's pretty cool. No Husband Yet? No Problem! 01/08/2012
Welp. Just finished a lengthy Sunday afternoon conversation with my mom, who advised me that she's willing to wait about 3 more years for me to have a baby. That's right around the time the mortgage will be paid off, and she can sell the house and travel with me and the kid. Never mind I don't have a husband. "So, get a sperm donor," she says. "I don't mind you having a baby when you're old. I want a grand baby." Thanks, mom. Yeah. Thanks for that. Did we somehow forget that I'm forty-fucking-three years old, and I don't even have a boyfriend? What's that? No problem? "...The Army is full of men...Just stop being so picky. You don't even have to marry him...You don't need child support...You can afford a baby." And the best one, "Just gotta think about how happy that would make me before I die...Pretty, pretty grand babies..." Yes, she played the death card. So, on the chance that there are others, and I know there are others out there who go through this with the people who love us (moms, dads, well-meaning friends, etc.), I just want you to know you're not alone. I've had this topic thrown at me so many different ways, from so many different angles, I can just about tell you what to say back and how to say it. Guaranteed to shut them up about it for at least a month...unless you chat every Sunday. |
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