It's a sad reality that sometimes, the people from whom you expect to get the most support and encouragement will be the ones who will be the wet blankets at your picnic. If not that, then choose the cliche most to your liking. Wet blanket at your picnic, rain on your parade, or just plain naysayers to everything and anything at which you put forth some effort. Maybe they don't even realize they're bringing you down, and maybe they do.And unfortunately, that includes family, friends, agents, publishers, and yes, even fellow writers. It's tough to think that not everyone is happy for you, even though they like to caveat their bad vibes with, "No offense," and "I'm just saying," and other crap. Sometimes, it's hard to tell if comments are useful constructive criticism and advice, or genuine apathy and spite; but if you're going to write or take on any other business venture or pursuit of dreams, you have to accept it all and still keep it moving. Sure, some of your ideas and plans will be less than perfect, some of your work not great, some of it just plain bad;
but with all of that in mind, just keep your head up and your eyes open. Only time will tell if you'll ever reach the prize that you're pursuing, but if you stop reaching, then you can be sure that you never will. Never stop reaching.
It's true that everything won't work for everyone. I've been told that a large part of being successful in any business is just being prepared for luck and chance to favor you. Be in the right place at the right time, and don't be afraid to try something different while you're working at your "lucky coincidence" or whatever it's called.
Most of all, don't let anyone tell you that it'll never work, or it shouldn't work, or even if it does work, it's really has no real value. All of that is a back-handed, back-biting, often passive-aggressive, not-so-slick way of someone trying to convince you that their opinions of your efforts and ideas are worth more than your own. Phooey!
That said, I wanted to post a couple of blogs that I read today that might be encouraging.
Here's one from Martin Crosbie
, who shares a story about being among those who made the top of the Amazon bestsellers list, despite many, many rejections before he decided to self-publish.
Here's one from Emlyn Chand
, of Novel Publicity & Co., about leaving your readers wanting more.Another, from Tawdra Kandle, about considering the indie-published route, and how "indie" is NOT a bad word.
And one more, from Michael Fogus
, on reading, especially for those of us who are short on time these days. Yes, another plug for the benefits of being a reader. :)
One of my favorite Michael Jackson songs is called "Keep the Faith," where he sings about keeping your eye on the prize and your feet on the ground. I don't think that was meant specifically for writers, but it's still great advice.
Happy reading, writing living, and reaching!